the journey back to each other
the journey back to each other
For couples who still care
Create closeness
Create closeness
Enjoy being together again
Enjoy being together again
How to Date Your Spouse is a 3-month guided relationship experience for couples who have become busy, distant or too logistical — and want to have a warm and close marriage again.
How to Date Your Spouse is a 3-month guided relationship experience for couples who have become busy, distant or too logistical — and want to have a warm and close marriage again.
11 designed date experiences
11 designed date experiences
Private community
Private community
Weekly live Zoom sessions
Weekly live Zoom sessions
1-week guided start for couples
1-week guided start for couples
Lessons from 200+ date nights
Lessons from 200+ date nights
First 50 couples
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Start the journey
See how it works
Life is always pulling us apart. We need a way to get back to each other.
This is for you if…
Your marriage is not broken
Your marriage is not broken
But it does not feel as close as it once did.
But it does not feel as close as it once did.
Do you notice these signs of distance in your marriage?
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You mostly talk about children, work, family, or problems.
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You work hard for your family, but don't make time for each other.
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You miss the ease, playfulness or friendship you once had.
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Most days you end up feeling like roommates, not friends and lovers
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Talking about your relationship often becomes a heavy conversation.
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You both want to reconnect, but don't know where to begin
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You mostly talk about children, work, family, or problems.
2
You work hard for your family, but don't make time for each other.
3
You miss the ease, playfulness or friendship you once had.
4
Most days you end up feeling like roommates, not friends and lovers.
5
Talking about your relationship often becomes a heavy conversation.
6
You both want to reconnect, but don't know where to begin
Most couples think the next step is to talk more but...
Most couples think the next step is to talk more but...
The CYCLE OF disconnection
The biggest mistake couples make
when they feel distant
The biggest mistake couples make
when they feel distant
Creating correction instead of connection
We hope that pointing out what's wrong will improve the relationship. More often, it leaves both people feeling criticised and alone.
We hope that pointing out what's wrong will improve the relationship. More often, it leaves both people feeling criticised and alone.
WHEN WE FEEL DISTANT
The harder we push, the more people protect themselves
Criticism often leads to defensiveness, not openness. People stop listening and start protecting themselves.
Criticism often leads to defensiveness, not openness. People stop listening and start protecting themselves.
WHEN WE TRY TO CHANGE EACH OTHER
Both people end up feeling lonely
Even with good intentions, couples slowly lose the warmth and closeness they were both trying to protect.
Even with good intentions, couples slowly lose the warmth and closeness they were both trying to protect.
WHEN WE PROTECT & DEFEND
Criticism, defensiveness, loneliness. This is the cycle of disconnection.
We need a different path.
A different PATH TO CLOSENESS
This realisation was the turning point for us
It took us more than 10 years to realise that we were trying to fix the wrong problem.
It took us more than 10 years to realise that we were trying to fix the wrong problem.
Start by fixing the distance
Not each other
We know what it's like to feel alone in a marriage
We know what it's like to feel alone in a marriage
Aug 2023 - three years since the first date night
FROM OUR OWN MARRIAGE
FROM OUR OWN MARRIAGE
We know what it is like to be alone in a marriage.
2 careers, 3 kids, building a business, running a home - we lived through more than 10 years of disconnection ourselves.
Aug 2023 - marking three years since the first date nights
We fell into the cycle of disconnection too. We spent so much time trying to fix each other, and both of us felt lonely and misunderstood.
We fell into the cycle of disconnection too. We spent so much time trying to fix each other, and both of us felt lonely and misunderstood.
We were fighting each other instead of fighting disconnection as a team. That realisation became the beginning of our weekly date night—a small ritual that slowly became the turning point our marriage needed.
How to Date Your Spouse brings together what transformed our own marriage, what we've learned through years of mistakes and successes, and what relationship science consistently shows helps people reconnect.
We were fighting each other instead of fighting disconnection as a team. That realisation became the beginning of our weekly date night—a small ritual that slowly became the turning point our marriage needed.
How to Date Your Spouse brings together what transformed our own marriage, what we've learned through years of mistakes and successes, and what relationship science consistently shows helps people reconnect.
Our emotions have a voice
Your content names things we feel but have never known how to say.
— Trisha, WAF Community Member
It feels reassuring
It feels reassuring because you speak as a couple who has lived through disconnection — not from some relationship theory.
— Nirali, Early course reviewer
Start rebuilding closeness
Lessons from 5 years of Date Nights
Lessons from 5 years of Date Nights
DESIGNED DATES FOR SAFE CONNECTION
DESIGNED DATES FOR SAFE CONNECTION
A good date is an experience designed for connection.
A good date is designed to create connection.
Five years of date nights taught us what creates closeness—and what quietly gets in the way.
Five years of date nights taught us what creates closeness—and what quietly gets in the way.
Common traps
Common traps
Conversations become heavy
Dates become repetitive
Small disagreements turn into fights
Only one person enjoys the date
You don't know how to begin or end
The date feels boring
Conversations become heavy
Conversations become heavy
Dates become repetitive
Small disagreements turn into fights
Small disagreements turn into fights
Only one person enjoys the date
Only one person enjoys the date
You don't know how to begin or end
The date feels boring
The date feels boring
What makes a good date night?
What makes a good date night?
THE RECIPE FOR A GOOD DATE
THE RECIPE FOR A GOOD DATE
How a date night helps rebuild closeness
6 ingredients we find consistently help us create better date nights
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A solid new plan
Helps you create your own plan for making Date Night a repeatable habit - with enough room for exceptions
two
The "only us" space
Each date helps you transition from the business of your life into your couple space
three
Staying present
Learn how to set up your time together, so that you can be there for each other without distractions
four
Affection & conversation
Build the skills that add more affection and better conversations to your marriage
five
Lightness & play
Activities and conversations that both partners will enjoy and help you keep things positive
six
Curiosity & openness
Puts you in new situations and conversations that help you learn about each other
one
A solid new plan
Helps you create your own plan for making Date Night a repeatable habit - with enough room for exceptions
two
The "only us" space
Each date helps you transition from the business of your life into your couple space
three
Staying present
Learn how to set up your time together, so that you can be there for each other without distractions
four
Affection & conversation
Build the skills that add more affection and better conversations to your marriage
five
Lightness & play
Activities and conversations that both partners will enjoy and help you keep things positive
six
Curiosity & openness
Puts you in new situations and conversations that help you learn about each other
Your relationship changes one thoughtfully designed date at a time
Your relationship changes one thoughtfully designed date at a time
How to Date Your Spouse
How to Date Your Spouse
The 11-date, 3-month guided relationship experience
The 11-date, 3-month guided relationship experience
Month 1
Start light
Get started. Reduce awkwardness. Rebuild ease. Remember that being together can feel enjoyable again.
Month 2
Build closeness
Bring back warmth and friendship through guided conversations and shared experiences
Month 3
Find a deeper connection
Greater connection. Create room for dreams, repair, intimacy and the future you want to keep building together.
Everything you need on the way to enjoying your time together.
Everything you need on the way to enjoying your time together.
11 Designed Dates
Weekly live guidance
Private Community
Worksheets & Reflection Exercises
Conversation prompts
Lifetime Access
Start Dating Your Spouse
Have questions about the experience?
Have questions about the experience?
FAQs
What you may be wondering before you begin
What you may be wondering before you begin
What if my spouse is hesitant or says date nights feel forced?
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What if my spouse is hesitant or says date nights feel forced?
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Do we need to go out for every date?
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Do we need to go out for every date?
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Is this suitable if our relationship is already struggling?
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Is this suitable if our relationship is already struggling?
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Do both partners need to attend every Zoom?
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Do both partners need to attend every Zoom?
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Will our personal relationship issues be discussed publicly?
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Will our personal relationship issues be discussed publicly?
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How much time will each date take?
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How much time will each date take?
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Is this couples therapy?
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Is this couples therapy?
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Ready to make space for your relationship again?
Ready to make space for your relationship again?
JOIN THE FOUNDING GROUP
Give your relationship three months of protected attention.
We're intentionally beginning with just 50 couples. This allows us to guide each couple more personally while refining the experience through real participation and feedback.
Try the experience. Risk-free.
We believe you'll feel the difference quickly. So if you don't notice a change in your relationship, we don't want you to spend your money.
Complete the first week
Complete the first date
Attend the first 2 Zoom Sessions
Write to us within the first 14 days of signing up to get a full refund.
It's not about the dates, it's what you do in the dates to build closeness.
PERSONALLY GUIDED - First 50 couples
₹ 5990
₹ 7990
1-week guidance to set up date night
Preparation, involving your spouse, starting off
11 guided date experiences
Clear plans, activities and conversation prompts
12 weekly live Zoom sessions
Guidance, teaching, and shared momentum
Community support
Reminders, encouragement and practical help
Lifetime Access
To all learning videos and materials
Start Dating Your Spouse
PRIVATE 1-1 GUIDANCE - 10 Couples only
₹ 17990
₹ 22990
For couples who want personalised support throughout the journey.
6 private coaching sessions
and personal WhatsApp access
Plus everything in the 3 month experience
Apply for 1-1 Guidance
Our emotions have a voice
Your content names things we feel but have never known how to say.
— Trisha, WAF Community Member
It feels reassuring
It feels reassuring because you speak as a couple who has lived through disconnection — not from some relationship theory.
— Nirali, Early course reviewer
JOIN THE FOUNDING GROUP
Give your relationship three months of protected attention.
We're intentionally beginning with just 50 couples. This allows us to guide each couple more personally while refining the experience through real participation and feedback.
PERSONALLY GUIDED - First 50 couples
₹ 5990
₹ 7990
1-week guidance to start date night
Preparation, involving your spouse, starting off
11 guided date experiences
Clear plans, activities and conversation prompts
12 weekly live Zoom sessions
Guidance, teaching, and shared momentum
Community support
Reminders, encouragement and practical help
Lifetime Access
To all learning videos and materials
Start Dating Your Spouse
PRIVATE 1-1 GUIDANCE - 10 Couples only
₹ 17990
₹ 22990
For couples who want personalised support throughout the journey.
Everything in the 3 month experience
plus….
Personal WhatsApp Support
3 months access to Dr Santhan for guidance
1-1 Personalised coaching
6 personal coaching sessions
Apply for 1-1 Guidance
Try the experience. Risk-free.
We believe you'll feel the difference quickly. So if you don't notice a change in your relationship, we don't want you to spend your money.
Complete the first week
Complete the first date
Attend the first 2 Zoom Sessions
Write to us within the first 14 days of signing up to get a full refund.
It's not about the dates, it's what you do in the dates to build closeness.
Our emotions have a voice
Your content names things we feel but have never known how to say.
— Trisha, WAF Community Member
It feels reassuring
It feels reassuring because you speak as a couple who has lived through disconnection — not from some relationship theory.
— Nirali, Early course reviewer
A note from us
Life never stops pulling us apart. We need a way to get back to each other.
If you're ready to rebuild closeness in your relationship, we'd love to help you begin.
If you're ready to rebuild closeness in your relationship, we'd love to help you begin.
With warmth,
Santhan + Shruti
With warmth,
Santhan + Shruti
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